The risk of your personality strengths derailing

The wine spills, the successful leader can derail

Uncertainty seems to be a feature of our news, the business literature, and the lived experience of leaders envisioning the path ahead. The BANI framework—coined for describing the Brittle, Anxious, Nonlinear, and Incomprehensible modern world we have created—captures this moment. Yet all the discourse, whilst acknowledging how people are feeling, also feeds the fire of our emotions about being out of control. 

Feelings of uncertainty seem to be heightened by a realising that for all the dominant agentic outlook promoted as a leadership model and experienced as the norm in modern society, we are in fact not in control of our business world, let alone our existence beyond it. We never were, even at times when events seemed more predictable. For many in less financially affluent parts of the world, this reality—that we live in a complex world and that everyday existence is precarious—is not new. It always was. Resilience is part of the human make-up, and our minds and bodies have inbuilt survival mechanisms to bounce back from reasonable levels of anxiety about life’s uncertainties. 

Risk in being about probability, is different from uncertainty. It is usually viewed through a lens of likelihood of an event and its impact. It is more quantifiable and more controllable. Risk management strategies in business tend to be: mitigate, avoid, reduce, transfer, or accept it, or any combination of these. For a leader there are many risks to manage.  In smaller entities held in the head and body, in larger entities, a documented framework with a dashboard, perhaps with algorithms feeding it. 

Many of the financial and operational controls in your organisation manage the risk of humans intentionally or accidentally, acting contrary to expectation. This can have  considerable impact on performance, finances, and reputation. 

The Risk No One is Tracking

The one set of risks unlikely to be on a risk framework is the one that interests me here and ought to interest every leader: the risks of your personality when you use, then over-use, your strengths

Consider the shadow of a key strength you and others rely on for success. How you use that strength when your guard is down due to stress, pressure, anger, frustration, hunger, tiredness, illness, or when very comfortable in a situation. This sub-optimal state can compromise your performance and stability. Visualise any racket sport player fully extending to reach a ball, or a fighter in a similar fully extended position. Referred to as derailing by Hogan Assessments and as over-extending by Lumina, this phenomenon is masked by the proven benefits to success of using our strengths. 

Do you recognise this in yourself, a peer, or your boss? Do not be surprised if you don’t.

Self-awareness is the most potent tool for managing this risk—a tool which many leaders possess in good measure in a broad sense. Danger lurks in the blind spot we all have from successful deployment of our strengths to reach our leadership positions. The warm, empathetic, and sociable leader who avoids feedback conversations they sense would be difficult. The outgoing, ambitious, daring leader who stops listening and takes an uncalculated risk on a major decision.

Circling back to that key strength you identified earlier: when you have used it effectively under less-than-optimal conditions in the past, which aspects of your personality have you actively had to manage to remain effective in decisions, actions, and relationships, so the strength doesn’t get in your way and that of your team?

Managing the Risk

Proven ways to manage the risk of derailing and over-extending include:

  • Proactively activating your personal values in sub-optimal conditions
  • Using another strength to control it
  • Having a trusted third party to spot and remind you to be mindful

Pay particular attention during any transition in your leadership role, and at known pressure point cycles in your monthly or annual calendar—preparing for Board meetings, project deadlines, performance reviews.

Underpinning all of this is taking your physical, mental, spiritual, and social wellbeing seriously. This provides a robust base from which to respond to sub-optimal conditions—and to catch yourself before your greatest strengths become your greatest liabilities.

What Ruuvand does for individuals and for society

I know some history and development of capitalism.  However, reading an excellent article “Good Companies” in the latest  RSA Journal, which relays the historical role of business in society, it  hit home to me as a business owner. The article sketched how businesses were started to serve customer and society needs. Sainsbury’s and M&S gave access to farm produce, Rowntree and Cadbury’s provided chocolate of an assured standard which consumers demanded . This is causing me to ask the question of my company, Ruuvand, what gap are we plugging for individuals and for society?  What are we helping clients and society to access more of, more easily or more cost effectively? Tough question for me!

 

Here is my response.  We make meaning from our values and considerable energy can be generated from them. Yet few of us invest time in clarifying our values or in challenging our mindsets as a starting point for achievement.  No wonder work-life balance is out of kilter for most people. Some are are fortunate to single-handedly identify their values and live value-led lives. We spend most of our time learning how “to do” and choosing what “to have”, but precious little time on who and how “to be”.  It is not necessarily the long hours or the tough demands of the job that tips the balance, but often the mindset.  

Mindset determines our attitude and approach.  What we do at Ruuvand is help people to develop a Mindset to achieve their highest aspirations, best performance and to meet their toughest challenges.  We get there faster than if the individual or group were working on their own.

When our clients develop a chosen Mindset, they often go on to achieve their aims whilst maintaining their well-being.  For most people, a “Reach-back mindset” is key, reaching into who they really are, which can be different from who they have become.

Ruuvand’s impact on society is evident in our clients’ achievements and their positive impact on people they interact with in their lives.

Giving feedback

Blooming LavenderI listened to Graham Keen’s audio cd “95@95” in the car over the weekend and whilst I did not agree with all its contents, it brought together many things I know. Isn’t it great when writers are able to make you wonder “how come I did not realise this myself?” A strong point for me was his conclusion that if you want to make changes in your life, you must look at the messages you give yourself of who you are (your self-concept). Change these messages and your behaviour will begin to change to suit your new messages.

The memorable anecdote from the tape was how John D Rockefeller, preparing to bawl out an executive at Standard Oil who had made a very costly error, first made an exhaustive list of the man’s top qualities and achievements in the company. We are taught to sandwich negative feedback between positive statements. Also to tackle the behaviour, not the person. What I learnt from Rockefeller is how to do this in practice: really look to see what good there is in the person and appreciate her/him. This puts their behaviour and result into perspective.

The thing is to do this, you must already be of the mindset that there is some good there in the first place.