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5 questions to ask oneself when making major decisions

Here are my top five questions to ask oneself when making a major decision:

  1. What I think I should do?  Note the logical.
  2. What do I feel I should do?  Note the intuition, body knowledge, gut feeling.
  3. What do I wish I could do?  Note the constructive intelligence.
  4. What would I do if it were not impossible?  Note the expanded limits & possibilities.
  5. What decision will encompass all that I have noted above?

What are your thoughts? Do you use a process such as working through these five questions when making a major decision? Is there anything crucial you think I may have missed? If you’ve never taken this type of approach to reach clarity on some upcoming decision, perhaps give my five questions a go and let me know how this works for you!

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For African eyes: Visioning for the future

Sometimes the only way to tackle a complex challenge is to be simplistic: as many have said, Africa’s greatest strength is also its greatest weakness – the vast amounts of resources within easy reach. It seems to deprive many Africans of the will to desire and expect more, to create a long term vision which becomes so compelling that it motivates focussed action.

I know Africans are not one people but still, we can address all of Africa’s young ones to help them create a powerful vision to desire better things all around them, built on their strengths. A strong desire for better futures + knowledge of strengths = confidence and determination to control one’s fate. Much of the confidence I presently see in some forums appears to be infected with a sense of reliance on external influences. It is not confidence based on people knowing their strengths and their ability to choose how to address their weaknesses. Confidence mostly comes from past personal experience or for the young, from receiving consistent messages.

Education in Africa for example, can be made more effective for the future by ensuring consistent clarity of the reason for educating children, a reason that goes far beyond a certificate and personal wealth. A reason that is about the community. A desire for certificates and wealth is great and increasingly shared by young people all over the world. However few would doubt that but the environment will determine how much they can be enjoyed. The pressing need for the future is therefore to create a context in which personal possessions can be enjoyed.

Corruption in Africa which most would identify as the key problem in the continent is but a symptom driven by a short-sighted desire to cater for one, not for a community or a generation. If you ask 5 consecutive “whys” for the enduring challenges in any Africa country, I suspect you will arrive at a mindset. A mindset can be changed with motivation and persistent attention. Individuals can start taking small steps to address the real underlying weaknesses. It could be something as simple as asking young ones to consider for a few minutes: If the only restriction were to be that you must remain in Africa, what would you want to be doing in 10 years time? Who would be around you, at work and on the streets? What would the environment and infrastructure look/feel/smell like?

Such cultural change will not come easy because change is always difficult. However it can be achieved if all adult Africans were to help cultivate an ambitious, positive vision of the future at every opportunity, a block-by-block approach to building. Given my initial premise, an alternative path would involve a massive disaster that would deprive Africa of its natural resources and force innovative responses for survival. Mother nature may yet deliver this option.

So, do you believe it is possible for your African country to have the best quality of life on the planet? Really? Some wise person once said that when your future becomes clearer and more desirable than your present, you will begin to move towards it.

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In 2006–08 males in the UK could expect to live in ‘very good’ or ‘good’ health for 62.5 years at birth and 10.1 years at age 65, and for females 64.3 years at birth and 11.3 years at age 65 (Source: Society expects older people to retire but to the sidelines but in this day, is this wise? I remember hearing a real life story about the damage caused to livelihood and forestry when a group of young male elephants went on the rampage in East Africa. They were part of a larger herd of which had the old bull elephant removed in an attempt to socially engineer new leadership in the herd. Are there lessons in this story for the recent riots or “public disorder” in London?

What is retirement anyway? Is it time for : travel, leisure, free travel, respect, pensions, slowing down, saying what you really feel, paying back, being paid back, worry, less finances, more money, regret, loneliness, hobbies, care services, hospitals, taxis, grand children, wisdom, friends, reunions, reduced mobility, failing senses, celebration of life, freedom?
Collins English says to retire is to give up work, to go into seclusion, to withdraw. A search on the internet brings up mostly financial issues and solutions. Surely, retirement is much more than financial matters. There appears to be limited support for people who wish to prepare for the non-financial aspects of retirement. Why is this so, when most would agree that we become progressively motivated by higher order needs like relationships and self actualisation, as we get older? Mature Times, a free newspaper in London refreshingly provides a balance of content but I wonder how widely read it is and if any read it before they retire.

Surely older people with wisdom and experience are a resource for society. Could a focus on post retirement contribution also provide older people with opportunities and a network of support they choose? After all many people have produced their best literary and artistic works after the age of 60.
To move gracefully into retirement is to know what is important to you, be proactive and flexible in pursuing it with determination.