Here are my top five questions to ask oneself when making a major decision:
- What I think I should do? Note the logical.
- What do I feel I should do? Note the intuition, body knowledge, gut feeling.
- What do I wish I could do? Note the constructive intelligence.
- What would I do if it were not impossible? Note the expanded limits & possibilities.
- What decision will encompass all that I have noted above?
What are your thoughts? Do you use a process such as working through these five questions when making a major decision? Is there anything crucial you think I may have missed? If you’ve never taken this type of approach to reach clarity on some upcoming decision, perhaps give my five questions a go and let me know how this works for you!
Phrases like “time has passed us by”; ‘we do no know where the time went”, “the day went quickly” ; “the hour is going slowly”, “just in time” are constant reminders that although we cont time as one of the resources available to us, in the real sense, it is not a resource we can use, apportion, transfer. It is in fact a limitless flow that was there before we arrived, just like the air we breathe and advances regardless of our action or inactions.
If this is so, then the term ‘time management’ is a misnomer and our preoccupation with it in the work place, home, school needs rethinking. If achieving success is most often determined by the direction or focus of efforts, it is important that we do actually re-align our understanding and relationship with time. Do we manage time or do we manage our selves within the time we have?
Semantics? Let us say I have four weeks to complete a design task, if I managed time, I would apportion the time to suit my speed and style of working and my rest time. I would even consider stopping the time during my idle periods. The reality though is that as I am receiving my brief for the task, time continues to roll, as I catch my breath to understand the task and its requirements, reconsider its impact on my priorities, plan my activities, my 4 weeks is constantly being depleted. No wonder, I am more likely to be stressed out and wondering where the time went.
If however, I am managing myself within the four weeks, in knowledge that the time is not a resource I can control, I am more likely to take responsibility for realizing that my listening or reading the brief, prioritizing are part of my unique approach to the task. I would therefore be making choices about how much thinking, clarification, discussion, delegation I engage in. I would also remain aware of all the other matters in my life which need my attention.